DO NOT say “you’re welcome”! Respond to “thank you” PROPERLY!

DO NOT say “you’re welcome”! Respond to “thank you” PROPERLY!

(upbeat music) – Hello, everyone, and welcome
back to English With Lucy. Today, I am going to be teaching you all of the ways that you
can respond to thank you. Now you’re welcome or you are welcome is a perfectly valid way
to respond to a thank you. But I think it’s a little bit overused, especially by learners of English. It’s completely natural. You find one way you like to say things and then you say it again,
and again, and again. The purpose of this video is
to expand your vocabulary bank, so that you have many more
options when somebody thanks you. So this video is going to be perfect for improving your vocabulary. But if you want to improve your listening and your pronunciation even further, than I highly recommend
listening to audio books. It’s something I mention
in a lot of my videos, but I mention it a lot
because I know it works. I advise you to take a
book that you already have, a book that you’ve maybe already read and download the audio version and listen to it whilst you are reading. Just reading alone will not
help you with your pronunciation because English is not
a phonetic language. If you are hearing the
word as you read it, your brain will make the connection, and next time you see that word, you will know how to pronounce it. And next time you hear that word, you will know how it’s spelt. You can get a free audiobook,
that’s a 30 day free trial of audible by clicking on the
link in the description box. I’ve got loads of recommendations
for great audio books, and also the physical book
counterpart on Amazon. I really encourage you
to try out this method because it could transform
your pronunciation, your spelling, your vocabulary
and you’re listening. Right, let’s get started with the lesson. Let’s begin with informal
or casual phrases that you can use with
your friends and family. The first one is, you’re welcome. But let’s expand on that a little bit. If you really want to emphasise that their thanks has been
taken into consideration, you can say, you’re very welcome. This is quite a British one, I think, for example, thank you so much for packing my shopping for me. Oh, you’re very welcome. Number two, this one is
slightly more American. It’s, no problem, no problem. Bear in mind that the older generation seem to dislike this one. So keep that in your head if a slightly older
person is thanking you. An example, thanks for the help today. No problem, I enjoyed helping you. Number three, the third
way to respond to thank you is, thank you. (laughs) But this one is all about the emphasis. If somebody thanks you but you think that they should be thanked,
you can say, no, thank you. Or just, thank you. For example, thanks for
accepting the invitation. Thank you. I’m emphasising that really,
I should be thanking them because they invited me somewhere. Number four, this one is much more formal. If we say it in its entire form
it’s, the pleasure is mine. The pleasure is mine. You can also shorten it
to make it less formal by saying, my pleasure,
or simply, pleasure, that’s very casual. For example, thanks for
taking the parcel in for me. Pleasure. That’s a short way of
saying it was my pleasure, or the pleasure is mine, or was mine. Number five is a very friendly one. Only use this with people you know well. It’s, I know you’d do the same for me. For example, I’d like to thank you for looking after my cat so well. The response, I know
you’d do the same for me. I know you’d look after my
cat, so I looked after yours. Even Stevens. Number six is much more casual. And it’s slightly less heartfelt. You might say this if
you don’t really care, or if somebody is thanking
you for doing something that you might not have wanted to do. But depending on the intonation
and the tone of voice, it can also be quite warm. It’s, that’s all right. So I could say, thank
you for picking me up from the station. I could say either, that’s all right. Or, that’s all right. My tone of voice is telling you everything you need to know there. Number seven is a very casual one. It’s, no worries, no worries. In use, thanks for letting me know that my car alarm was going off. No worries, I thought I’d better tell you. The next one is very British. It’s quite self-deprecating. It’s, don’t mention it. For example, thank you so
much for bringing the desert. Oh, don’t mention it. It was a lot of effort to
bring dessert probably. And they probably do
want you to mention it, but we just say, don’t mention it because, oh, it was nothing. Number nine is very heartfelt. It is, it was the least I could do. For example, thank you for
visiting me in hospital. Oh, it was the least I could do. Again, very British,
very self-deprecating. Number 10 is quite casual. It’s, anytime. Thank you for stopping by, oh, anytime. It’s quite a generous
response, I like this one. Number 11 is a really American one. I hardly ever hear it used in the UK. But I thought I should teach it to you because British English
is not the only English, it’s good to know about all of
the different slang phrases. And yes, this is a very
casual one, it is, sure. A one word answer to say you’re welcome. Thank you for thinking of me, sure. It often goes hand in
hand with no problem. Sure, no problem. Number 12 is, oh, it was nothing. Again, another self-deprecating one. It’s a way of saying that
what they are thanking you for was no extra effort. Thank you for picking
my kids up from school. Oh, it was nothing, my kids
already needed picking up. No extra effort here. Now I want to talk to you about four more formal ways of
responding to thank you. And these are more likely to
be used in business situations, or maybe in a shop or restaurant. Number one is very British,
it’s quite old fashioned, and it is, much obliged. The full formal way of saying it is, I’m very much obliged to you. For example, thank you so much doctor, I’m very much obliged to you. This is shortened down to, I
actually experienced this one in use the other day at a shoe shop. I said, thank you so much after paying and he said, “Much obliged.” And I thought, oh, I haven’t
heard that phrase in a while, I’m gonna put it in a video. The guy had an amazing
Cockney accent as well, he was really nice, really helpful. Great shoes, they had a gel bottom. Number two is a more formal
way of saying you’re welcome it is, you’re most welcome. Now, this does sound very posh. So I wouldn’t use it willy-nilly, willy-nilly means without
careful thought, or planning. I wouldn’t use it willy-nilly. But if you’re in a formal situation, for example, I thanked my solicitor on the phone the other day
for sending me some forms. And she replied with, you’re most welcome because she’s quite a formal person, and it was a formal legal situation. Number three is, we
appreciate your business or we appreciate your custom. Custom if you’re talking to a customer and business if you’re
talking to a business client. For example, thank you for
sending the sample so promptly. We appreciate your business. And the last one,
definitely a business one, it’s, I’m happy to help. For example, thank you for
helping me carry the coffees to the office. Oh, I’m happy to help. Right, that’s it for today’s lesson. I hope you enjoyed it and I
hope you learned something. Again, really consider starting
to listen to audiobooks, you can claim your free audio book by clicking on the link
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soon for another lesson. Muah! (upbeat music)

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  2. Wow. Just wow. What does pronunciation have to do with responding to "thank you' with "you're welcome?

    This video is so obnoxious that I couldn't even make it to the two minute mark.

    BTW If you are going to be pompous about pronunciation, shouldn't you at least be able to pronounce words that virtually no one mispronounces? It's Amazon, not Amazin, you twit.

  3. When you expand your kindness like when u drop a rock in the water there are these waves it’s just like when kindness is expanding and spreading

  4. Never heard an American say “pleasure” for “you’re welcome”.
    And this reminds me of the biggest mistake non-natives make, when they say “welcome” instead of “you’re welcome.”
    Also, the ones she calls “very British” are also very American

  5. The title was extremely misleading, and your audiobook idea is not all it's cracked up to be, since I've heard words mispronounced on audiobooks numerous times.

  6. If I expand my vocabulary it may give people the impression that I’m smart….I don’t want that.

    Also, this is a very random video recommendation, I guess it’s time to learn English.

  7. Why don’t you have one on “do not say ‘thank you’?” Thanks, thanks so much, cheers, ta, thanks so much, I appreciate it and I wanted to thank you again are all much more common.

  8. When I was little I was very confused why you respond with "you're welcome" to "thank you", since in my language the basic answer is "cu plăcere" (with pleasure).
    But now I see there are wayyy more ways to respond to thank you…

  9. I'm from southern Ireland and we NEVER say thank you, we say "nice one " for example.. if I dropped something and someone picked it up and called me to return it to me, I'd say – ahh fair play to ya man nice one and sometimes we would throw a thanks at the end, and if someone said thank you to me I'd say – nod a bodder boy, its grand….. every country has it's own way of saying thank you and your welcome…… so this video really doesnt apply to anyone , because of the fact we all say it in our own ways through slang and accents , like who's this video actually applying to??? For example- if an American person was to go around America saying thank you / your welcome in his normal American accent but using the replies that the southern Irish use, then people would be think he / she is weird or odd…… imagine if a man / woman picked up my wallet or phone and handed it to me and I'm in my home town in southern Ireland and I turn around and say – " WHY THANK YOU MA'AM " just like Texan Americans but in my own accent, it would be kinda strange and unusual, you see where I'm coming from with this??? So my point being is that, there is no right or wrong way to say thank you / your welcome because every town / city / county / state has it's own way of speech and slang, that would be like me doing a video and telling everyone of the viewers how to say things properly….but I'd only be going by how the irish say these specific things , so is the rest of the world going to start talking like the Irish after my video??? You say things because that's what you grew up speaking

  10. I don't advise anyone to sign for the audio.. I made an account and they mention I can have my first free book.. they withdraw the money from my visa and even the software can't be implemented in my laptop..

  11. Ghostcatch Growtopia

    People after watching this video be like..
    Ok… Now i can use all of the vocabs to respond to thank you
    and USE IT
    Somebody : "thank you!"/" you're welcome!"
    Me : What can I say except you're welcome
    For the tides, the sun, the sky
    Hey, it's okay, it's okay
    You're welcome
    I'm just an ordinary demi-guy…

  12. I subscribed because you remind me of my first grade teacher , I always gave her a mango 🥭 and she always gave me that look

  13. It’s good
    You good
    Uh huh
    Don’t worry bout it
    Ain’t no thang
    No, I ain’t trippin
    It’s whatever
    Hell yeah
    raises eyebrows, nods yes

  14. How to speak English "properly". Haven't watched the video yet – but I'm 100% confident this is a British person giving a lecture.

  15. Title of the video is misleading, you make it sound like saying "you're welcome' is wrong. I thought I was doing it all wrong and should learn to do it "properly" but oh well nothing new here

  16. I missed some equivalent of Spanish "de nada" or Czech "není zač" – your "it was nothing" has slightly different meaning.
    And also there is a cute Arabic phrase for "don't mention it" with meaning "don't thank me for my duty" 😀

  17. Jonas Jascha Thorhauge Thomsen

    “Especially by learners of English”. Whatever man, brits and Americans don’t even bother learning other questions because they get everything from their mother tongue. Maybe you guys should learn some other language besides English and try to develop your cultural insight. From a non-English speaker!

  18. Hahaha It was Great experience with your videos but this one really you are very first in English i had to. Pause & play it in order to listen 😂✌ any how you got it 😍 Heartily thanking you ❤

  19. Do you ever notice when people say you're welcome with that strange passive aggressive tone and subtle inflection that implies that actually you aren't welcome?

    It's usually heard from people that aren't suited or happy to be working in hospitality or any service industry because they have complete contempt for the customers they are dealing with.

  20. Meu amigo nativo do EUA me disse que o correto é you're welcome. Nos filmes respondem com you're welcome então vou dizer you're welcome. Por mais que me soe como vocês são bem vindos kkkk

  21. This video seems to be for people in UK, so I'd take what she says as what is au fait in England. This doesn't follow through in USA, so take care.
    Your response needs to be honed to the situation. If you hold a door for a stranger who says "thanks" you can smile and nod your head, you can say yer welcome, a few people say smart ass things like "welks." Anything other than that is a way of flirting and trying to prolong the interaction. Manners and appreciation is one thing, but be sure what you're doing.
    If you're kidding around with your friends, you can use the clever interactions, but they don't really belong in manners with strangers.
    In some places, e.g., traffic, if someone lets you cut-in or turn in front of you, it's good to make eye contact and wave and they should nod or wave back.
    This is courtesy. Don't worry about being inventive or interesting. Just be sure to be polite!

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